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Written by Lo Nyambok   
Monday, 04 August 2008

MIRIAM RIVERA- MODEL


 

 

Well, about a month ago someone had written a NOTE on facebook to explain how complicated it is to try pleasing everyone when it comes to GENDER ISSUES (especially in the US/UK etc). The thing is, everyone wants to be identified based on whatever gender they are- it might not necessarily be the gender they were when they were born. Trust me, it gets so complicated to attempt to get everyone happy and stay POLITICALLY CORRECT etc etc


The main talk was about what should be incorporated in documents, as in:

PLEASE CIRCLE ONE GENDER THAT PERTAINS TO YOU:
1. Male
2. Female.
3. Both.
4. Mixed.
5. None
etc

Anyway, as a person who is in the healthcare industry, I know how tricky it gets with people who may have had a sex change or prefer to be referred to as one gender (Say a WOMAN) when physically they are percieved as the opposite gender (Say a MAN)

HERE IS MY RESPONSE TO THAT NOTE:
Wednesday, June 25, 2008 at 2:48pm

I took this multi-cultural class last semester and I thought I knew everything about everything. Until a student explained something on TRANS-SEXUAL (NOT TRANSGENDER, there is a big difference.)

TRANS- GENDER being that its what the person perceives in their mind as to whether they are MALE or FEMALE regardless of what their physical body is perceived by the rest of us (feeling like a female- when physical body is male vice versa). They then like to be referred to as THE THIRD GENDER, BI- GENDER. (I am not an expert in that field but thats how I understood the explanation- I am hoping I have that accurate.)

A TRANS- SEXUAL is then a person who is TRANS- GENDER and undergoes a series of surgical changes (I think-lol!!) Known as SEX RE- ASSIGNMENT THERAPY. They are usually asked to live life as the gender they FEEL/THINK they are (Male as a woman or woman as a man for 1 year) first, then if they can handle it, thats when the surgery is done. Lord have mercy on their troubled souls, I cant even begin to imagine what they go through.

(As a WOMAN- I feel like a damn raging retarded alien sometimes KEYWORD: SOMETIMES), all the changing hormonal balances- makes me UN-HUMAN sometimes- but am sure its nothing close to what a TRANS- GENDER person goes through on a daily.)

I respect everyone though, there is always a collective ignorant thinking where most people instantly perceives themselves to be the RIGHTEOUS people- who understand 'what GOD wants.' So people treat other human- beings like Trans- sexuals or Trans- gender as though they are Sub- human. People use the BIBLE and GOD to condemn other people talking about about its UNNATURAL to be a Trans- person.

My opinion to such blatant IGNORANCE is that- if you think youre perfect, that youre the full definition of what humans should be, that you should be accepted the way you are because youre nothing but PERFECT... then what are you doing on EARTH with us mere Mortals? You should be in HEAVEN with GOD based on that PERFECT mindset. I always believe that if a person doesn't like what they see or hear, then they are not obligated to deal with or put up with a circumstance that does not suit them. People are so quick to judge each other based on trivial excuses justifying violence and insults using the LORD'S NAME and THE BIBLE.

ASK MIRIAM RIVERA who was in that reality show;


 

THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT MIRIAM

(MIRIAM is 100% MAN & THE ONLY SURGERY SHE HAS GONE THROUGH HAPPEN TO BE THE BREAST IMPLANTS, EVERYTHING ELSE IS INTACT- ESPECIALLY THE ONE BY HER FINGER TIPS.)

 I didnt watch the show, but saw something about it one time on VH1- The Men were in complete shock @ the end of the show...

I always stick to one main principle in my life- GOD IS LOVE- period!!!! Meaning the same GOD who took his time to create YOU (As special as you are) is actually the same GOD who also took his time to create Trans- persons, and we are all different as different can be but we are also unified by one CREATOR.

Its like someone telling me that its UNNATURAL to be AFRICAN or its UNNATURAL to be A WOMAN (Wouldnt that be the most ridiculous absolute stupidity that anyone could possible ever say??? lol!) I try and imagine my reaction to that and its quite hilarious. I know that I used a super simple analogy, but its really that simple. They are who they are and choose to live their lives based on whatever suits and makes them happy, so why should I care or lose sleep over people who have nothing to do with me.

Actually that was not even my POINT- my point as you can read from my 1st sentence is that I thought I knew but I didnt. This student explained to us that TRANS- GENDER/TRANS- SEXUAL people are considered STRAIGHT. (Now at this point my entire jaw hit the floor- I was too confused.)

Meaning if a person perceived themselves as a FEMALE and believe it in their mind their minds that are truly FEMALE even though they have a "WRONG" body of a man- then they actually get attracted to a MALE.
So if I a person feels like a woman inside then they will be attracted to MEN right?? (Even though all you will see is a MAN'S body-)

So in that case it makes a person STRAIGHT, the TRANS- GENDERED person who has a male body will be attracted to your male body- because they - FEEL FEMALE. If you call then GAY then they get extremely offended!!!


THIS CLASS really opened my eyes to something that I never even thought could turn out to be so complicated in a way. So as a health care provider we have to take all of the whole GENDER SENSITIVITY into consideration.

Meaning, if a person walks into the hospital and my eye sight percieves a MAN but this person tells that "HE" is a "SHE" WOMAN, then how can I decide what room to admit them in?

We always have females and males paired in rooms by the same sex- to provide privacy and psychological comfort. As a woman, you don't wanna be bending @ the hospital to wash you face in the morning, and imagine a dude scanning and zooming in upon your very bare behind through the open ended hospital gowns- RIGHT??

So who will you pair a patient who physically is a MALE but believes themselves to be FEMALE?? You CANNOT force them to sleep in the same room as a dude, because they will be traumatized!!! They need a FEMALE companion & FEMALE-ISH room to place their powder, perfume, make- up brush, make- up set, Toner, Cleanser, Bras, panties, thongs, nail polish, Chocolate, face massage, lipstick, wig, eye-brow tweezer etc. I still cannot figure out how Id handle that particular situation. How confusing is that?

 


 

CONCLUSION;
People should understand that GENDER DIFFERENCE is NOT the same as SEXUAL ORIENTATION-

My other super principle in life RESPECT! RESPECT! RESPECT! I might not necessarily agree with a person's point of view, opinion, thought process- but I never DISRESPECT people for what they stand for and believe in- thats what makes LIFE- LIFE!


THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT MIRIAM PT #2

 On February 27 MIRIAM WAS HOSPITALIZED with multiple broken bones and internal bleeding after she was attacked and thrown from the 4th floor window of her New York apartment.

STORY ON MIRIAM'S ATTACK

SERIOUSLY????- How sad are we as HUMANS?- Attacking another person & gaining nothing from it? If someone does not like something about other people-people they do not know, people who are not causing anyone any harm or affecting other people's life (Your life)-Please, just let them be- SAD, SAD STUFF.

By Lo (Enigmaress)

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written by Kismet , August 04, 2008
I am loving this! Get em! God (or Allah or Jehovah or Olorun) IS love and demands we mutual respect each other always.
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written by johari80 , August 04, 2008
i googled that show "something about Miriam" just to get some background information on what it's all about. I have to admit that this show was in bad taste. read the synopsis of the show and basically what they do is they get contestants to compete for Miriam....these jamaaz dont jua that she is techinally a dude. So ofcourse during the wooing process they get physical.......snog and what not but ofcourse they dont have sex. At the end, she chooses a winner then comes out and semas i lied to you, am not a woman, am a man. i think thats really mean, if you want a show with a trans gender, just come out and let it be known from the get go. By lying to these men, the show put Miriam in danger coz what if one of the guyz was a homophobe and decided to attack her outside where she doesnt have protection? these kind of shows just exploit trans gendered/sexual people and unknowingly, or knowingly, put expose them to dangers such as hate crimes. I am not against trans gendered/sexual people but i am against the exploitation of their plight, for a few laughs or kicks.

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written by Enigmaress , August 04, 2008
@ Kismet- AMEN!!!

@ Johari80- Believe it or not the men who agreed to take part in that reality show were told from the very beginning that there was a twist to the reality show. They had to sign (whatever people sign) in order to show that they are willingly taking part in a reality show that will have a shocking and surprising finale.

I tried posting the links from Youtube but KI is still a handful, anyhoo- there is a clip on youtube where one of the guys tells another dude that he thinks that the SHOCKING TWIST is Miriam is a MAN. They all agreed from the beginning to do whatever the reality show expected them to do without complaints etc. If you were one of the guys naturally you would say NO right?? lol!!

The other thing is most people who take part in reality shows, are just people praying for that '15 minutes fame', you know get people to know who they are just so they can get a chance to join hollywood or whatever. So I am 100% sure that every dude who took part in tht show was desperate enough to try anything, just to get that spotlight shining on them too- TRUE OR FALSE?

Now you said that;
"i am against the exploitation of their plight, for a few laughs or kicks."

I totally agree with you on that point, Miriam was attacked and damn nearly killed and you know that its that show that might have gotten someone crazy out there to go and hurt her. People have their own reasons for pulling stunts like what MIRIAM did and by going public, it almost killed her.
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written by jaya wardene , August 05, 2008
I remember being taught that gender related to masculine or feminine whilst sex was for male or female. The two terms being related but not inter-changeable.
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written by Enigmaress , August 05, 2008
@ Jaya- believe it or not, the more I tried to understand what all this GENDER stuff is all about, the more I was confused and I honestly admit that sometimes I cant even tell 'What is what.' I was still a little caught up trying to understand who is TRANS-GENDERED & Who belongs to the TRANS-SEXUAL group.

The next thing was trying to understand the whole STRAIGHT thing, like if a person was born a MALE and are always attracted to other MALES but they believe that they are actually FEMALE then it makes them straight.

Then like I said, the whole hospital issue... so believe it or not I actually didnt even stop to think about the difference in terminology when it comes to GENDER & SEX... you just brought that to my attention too...lol!! I was just using all the terms inter-changeable but GENDER & SEX are two very different and distinct terminologies. Apparently it gets even complicated huh?

Just to make it easier for others to understand;

SEX:
-Biological aspect of a person based on their chromosomes.
-Meaning XX- makes you FEMALE, XY- makes you MALE.
- SEX of a person is usually determined at the time of conception when the male sperm fertilizes the female ovum.
- The sperm is actually what determines what the SEX of the baby/offspring is going to be (U know al that Anatomy & Physiology 101)

GENDER;
Thats what you perceive yourself or FEEL & KNOW that you are- actually it all starts at the moment you are born. The doctor or nurse pulls you out, dangles you upside down in the air and yells out-based on the genitalia they see on the baby.

"Its a BOY!!!" (when the baby has a PENIS)

or

"Its a GIRL!!!." (When the baby 'looks' like they have a VULVA.)

I say "looks like" because last semester I had my OB clinicals & I swear I just couldnt tell the difference, I helped the nurse pull out this baby & the doctor goes "Well...??." I looked at him like "Well...what??". I held that screaming little human being, peered down the legs & I swear it didnt look like anything I have ever seen in my life. I looked back at the doctor and said very confidently "I DONT KNOW!!"

Plus I was trying not to pass out at the whole 'Watermelon coming out a grape' phenomenon that women go through to have babies.

Moving on swiftly, I couldnt help but share that bit of info. I know noone asked. Well, thats how to tell when to use SEX (Male, Female) or GENDER (Masculine, Feminine- ) Thanks Jaya.
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